“I developed a self esteem out of a couple of hard things. I knew I was a good father. I knew I was a good partner. I was good to those two people in my life. When we think about lying to people or not being good to people, we think about the harm we do to them. But we don’t think of the harm we do to ourselves. With telling ourselves who we are. If you lie to people repeatedly, you can find it hard to trust yourself. That’s who I am. I’m a liar. That’s what I do. This becomes crucial when it becomes time to make promises to yourself.” – Ta-Nahisi Coates on WTF Pod